Seeing your loved one battle with a substance addiction is a challenge. You want to help them as much as you can, but you also need to maintain your sense of self in the process. There may come a time when you realize that your efforts have become counterproductive, as your loved one is unable to do anything on their own. You might feel as though you want their sobriety more than them, and the sad truth is that this may very well be true.
No one can change before they’re ready. As much as you want the best for your loved one, they have to first come to grips with their reality and feel the urge to improve their situation. When that time comes, you can be there, but don’t waste your efforts. Offer your help on occasion, but do not allow your actions to perpetuate their habit. Try to remove the fear of thinking that without you, they may be in trouble. They may need to experience the true bitterness of addiction, before realizing that there is better for them.
Join a support group such as Narcotics Anonymous (NA) to help you along. They are designed for those going through an addiction, but you have your own struggle supporting those with said addiction, so feel free to allow yourself some breathing room. When they make that final fall, you will be able to catch them and help them along the path of recovery.Back to Blog